The depicted relationship between men and anger has sparked much debate and discussion over the years. In our society, the emotion of anger in men has sometimes been glorified, while looking at it from a toxic perspective has also led to friction between its actual cause, and its societal outlook.
There are several reasons why the emotion of anger is associated with men. Men are drawn to anger because they can be enraged while remaining well-defended and not vulnerable. Many men use anger not only to feel more in control of their emotional experiences but also to try to control their partner’s expression of feelings. Providing for one’s family, and sometimes being the sole earner, may be one of the reasons that amplify this emotion. In this article, we will learn about some reasons that lead men to be angry.
Reasons For Anger
Anger in men can be triggered by a variety of factors, including stress, and familial and financial problems. Anger can also be stimulated by an underlying disorder, such as alcoholism or depression, in some men.
Anger is not considered a disorder in and of itself, but it is a known symptom of several mental health conditions. Let us look at some possible causes.
Stress can certainly cause a wide range of issues. If you are prone to anger, stress will probably make you more likely to act out angrily. When a man is stressed or angry, there may be another feeling that is fueling this. It is most often being overwhelmed, feeling disrespected, helpless, and fearful, among other things. To better understand why he is having this reaction, a man must examine the feelings that lie beneath the stress. Once this understanding is obtained, one can act on feeling more relaxed.
Feeling unappreciated or unfairly treated
It turns out that being treated unfairly has a genetic basis for anger; it’s one of the top sources of rage. This is known as inequity aversion. Simply put, one believes that if you put in the same amount of work as someone else, you should be rewarded equally. When this doesn’t happen, it can be a source of outrage.
According to data shown by Yolt, One in seven (14%), men said they couldn’t sleep because of financial worries, and more than one in ten (12%) said they neglected their finances because it made them feel anxious or depressed.
Men’s mental health suffers as a result of financial concerns. Due to the threat to one’s sense of survival, financial challenges add to anxiety. Financial concerns have a greater impact on men’s mental health since they largely recognize themselves as the wage earners in the family.
Men often become enraged at work in response to difficult situations, especially with those that make them feel undervalued or disrespected. Differences of opinion are also a major cause: when people fight for their opinions, voices and tensions usually rise.
Harmful Effects of Anger
Anger activates the fight or flight response in the body. This response is also triggered by fear, excitement, and anxiety. The adrenal glands secrete stress hormones like adrenaline and cortisol into the body. To prepare for physical exertion, the brain redirects deoxygenated blood from the gut and toward the muscles. The body temperature rises, the respiration, heart rate, blood pressure, and sweating all increase in the body. The mind becomes sharper and more focused at that point.
The continuous flow of stress chemicals and related metabolic changes accompany unmanaged anger which can eventually harm different body systems.
Some of the short- and long-term health problems that come with unmanaged anger include:
- digestion problems, such as abdominal pain
- increased anxiety
- high blood pressure
- skin problems, such as eczema
- heart attack
Ways to Deal with Anger
Anger can be a positive and useful emotion if it is expressed appropriately. Long-term strategies for anger management include regular exercise, learning relaxation techniques and counselling. Anger is a normal feeling, and its controlled gesture is healthy, but if you’re not careful, it’s easy to revert to old habits. Serious anger issues, particularly those that endanger oneself or others, should always be discussed with a professional.
Let us look at some effective ways to deal with anger for men who struggle with it:
Discuss it with a trusted person
Talking about your emotions with a trusted friend or person is one of the most effective ways to deal with them. Let out your feelings and present the thoughts that cause you to be angry. You will feel lighter when you share it with someone you trust.
If you have a feeling that a situation will result in uncontrollable rage and resentment, you should get away from it as soon as possible. Sometimes not getting involved in scenarios that invite unwanted hard feelings can save you from having an emotional outburst.
You must have seen people performing cardiovascular exercises or weight lifting angrily. This means they are aware of their emotional eruption and are channelizing the energy in the right direction. Go for a simple walk or a jog when you feel you cannot hold back your rage anymore.
Making light of a situation with humour
Dealing with uncontrolled situations with light humour can also be an effective way to divert your mind. In this way, you will not be able to hurt people unintentionally.
Learning to control one’s anger can be difficult for anyone at times. It is difficult to control an emotion that gives you a sense of power and authority in that moment. That is why it is even more important to control that emotion before it controls you. If these changes aren’t enough to help you manage your anger, you may seek help from a mental health professional. Consulting an expert will help you channel that energy more positively and give comfort to you & those around you. For more health and well-being-related information, follow this space at sukham.life